The pressures around the holidays can be more intense and difficult after a loss or death of a loved one. Besides the numerous task you are already handling, grief during the holidays can make the smallest decision unbearable. Here at The River, we understand what you are facing. In many cases, family and friends want to love and care for you; and there are many parties and events to attend. Here are a few tips as you sort out some of the day-to-day matters over the holiday season.
- Don’t be alone. Join us at The River Wellness for Grief Support Group.
- Give yourself some time to make decisions. Planning can give you a sense of control about how you spend your time. During the holiday season, anxiety, worry, and anticipation can become overwhelming. Write down or talk through your options; prioritize your list, then make and share your decision.
- Plan for rest and meditation
- There are no rules…don’t let others determine what you should or should not do. You have the RIGHT! to make your own decisions.
- Pre-set your limits. As your life is transforming you may not do what you have always done in the past, as it relates to holidays. How much shopping, cooking, cleaning and visiting are you planning? How many events per day or week?
- Have you considered starting a new tradition or annual celebration of life to remember your loved one?
- Ask for and accept help.
- Pre-plan connecting with loved ones and friends. For example, write a daily list of old- fashioned phone calls; or a Face-Time call. The goal here is to hear a family voice or see a familiar face.
- Get involved in a charitable activity. Giving back to the community or others in need is a fulfilling way to be with others and honor your loved one. How about selecting a charity your loved one connected with or had interest in?
- Celebrate yourself! Talk with a friend or family member about the positive steps you have taken to honor your grief and recovery process.
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